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  Understanding the Connection Between Codependency and Guilt/Shame Codependency is a complex and often misunderstood issue that affects many individuals in their relationships. It is characterized by an excessive reliance on others for self-worth and identity, often at the expense of one's own well-being. In the context of codependency, guilt and shame play a significant role, intertwining with one another and exacerbating the challenges faced by those affected. The Role of Guilt in Codependency Guilt is a common emotion experienced by codependent individuals. It arises from a sense of responsibility for others' feelings, actions, or well-being. Codependents often feel guilty when they prioritize their own needs or set boundaries, fearing that they are being selfish or neglecting their role as a caretaker. This guilt can be overwhelming and lead to a cycle of self-blame and self-sacrifice. Codependents may constantly seek validation and approval from others, using their action

  Codependent No More In shadows deep, a woman once confined, Her spirit trapped, her heart confined, Bound in chains of codependency’s sway, But within her, a flicker sought its way. She journeyed through the valleys of despair, Her soul aching, gasping for love’s fresh air, In the depths of her being, a desire took hold, To break free from the clutches that had controlled. With DBT as her guiding light, She stepped into the realm of mindful sight, In her quest for healing, she embarked, Ten DBT techniques, her armor stark.     1.     Mindfulness , her compass true, Awareness bloomed, her vision grew, She embraced the present, let go of the past, Found solace in moments that forever last.     2.     Emotion Regulation , a skill she learned, To navigate the tides, her heart discerned, Identifying feelings, without judgment or blame, She reclaimed her power, no longer a pawn in the game.     3.     Distress Tolerance , her anchor strong, To weather the storms, to carry her along, In the